What is a God Ordained Relationship and Why is it More Important Today Than Ever?

God Ordained sounds so formal and serious … because it is. People are meeting new people daily by way of the Internet through social media and websites. They also meet people in person and the lines are blurred between the real and the fake. People can be fake in person as much as they are on social media sites. The same goes for the real, but most people don’t know the difference anymore. This requires discernment on your part, but if you don’t know what to watch out for, you can be duped into another broken relationship.

So what is God Ordained? It’s a relationship that God not only approves of but also has a hand in orchestrating. This is important because the different levels of relationships nowadays are skewed by the virtual world of the Internet. This also implies that a God Ordained relationship is something that will stand the test of time, hardship, and human error.

How is this possible? There is someone out there who God is preparing for you who is best suited to your personality, strengths, needs, and capabilities. God's algorithms are exponentially far more sophisticated than Match and eHarmony combined. There will be a mutual attraction both physically and emotionally, but most importantly, spiritually. This person is your spirit's mate, not just your soul mate. 

If anyone out there is looking for a long lasting relationship leading to marriage, this is a good topic to investigate and explore. It will most likely save you from heartache, divorce, and years of drama.

Does God really ordain relationships? Absolutely! If He knows the exact number of the hairs on your head and knew you while you were still in the womb, He is definitely involved in who you meet and marry. This gives Him infinite joy and brings glory to Him. When we see relationships and marriages fall apart, He is not pleased nor does this bring His Kingdom the glory it deserves. It does however bring the devil’s kingdom to light. So much so that we see this as a normal occurrence. We end up adopting the rinse and repeat cycle of relationships in our own lives thinking it’s normal and commonplace.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,

and before you were born I consecrated you …”

— Jeremiah 1:5

Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will. But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.

— Matthew 10:29-31

How many relationships and marriages do you think God had in mind for us to have in our lifetime? But we have free will to do as we please. Think back since high school. How many people did you date, make out with, break up with and recycle? Then adulthood? How many people did you become intimate with without first knowing them and their true character? In these scenarios, the more is not merrier for us nor for God. All this brokenness creates callouses in our hearts and minds, further blurring the true picture God wants for us and wants us to see and pursue.

Hopefully, this article will bring God’s picture to the forefront and slow down your activities in the dating and mating field, just enough to give you some insight on whether you are with someone God has for you. If you haven’t already, please read my article, “7 Ways to Know If You’re in A God Ordained Relationship.” This will bring you up to speed and give you something to think about before you DM some random person on Instagram.

Less is More

In today’s media driven society where the Internet is king, we can get distracted in hundreds of different ways. This modern day Babylon almost requires us to live like Daniel in the Old Testament. 

Being sucked into its vortex, this Babylonian society is what is expected of us since we each hold a phone which houses: the Internet, social media, games, and our connection to the world in the palm of our hands. We have access to everything 24/7. In the wrong hands, this sophisticated technology could become a weapon of mass distraction and could lead to destruction. 

For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.

— 1 John 2:16

There is a way that seems right to a man,

But its end is the way of death.

— Proverbs 14:12

Our pursuit of a relationship is just one piece of this technological pie, but can quickly eclipse our world for our good or for our ultimate demise. Our brains are already addicted to texting, the countless apps, and various activities we do. Having an inkling about God Ordained Relationships can save us from further harm by correcting our brains to think on Spiritual things versus the flesh we have access to at a moment’s notice. Bottomline, anyone with a smartphone looking for a relationship who is not cognizant of God Ordained Relationships is already on the road to destruction because they are following the carnal masses to the proverbial slaughter of rinse and repeat. 

This may sound overly dramatic, but think of the times you went through heartbreak. It overtook your world and seemed earth shattering at the time. How many times do you want to go through that? How many more lives do you want to be soul tied to only to spend additional time in heartache prison doing time while undoing the damage? In many instances we are even affecting children’s lives with our mistakes through divorce. 

We as Christians have to live counter to the culture and do the opposite to not only please God, but also save ourselves from needless heartbreak and broken soul ties that should have never been knit together in the first place. This is where chapter 5 of the book of Galatians describes the struggle between the flesh and the Spirit. It is also mentioned in Romans. In Galatians, Apostle Paul warns against being yoked in bondage and not giving into the lust of the flesh. 

Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery,fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, envy … I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

— Galatians 5:16-21

“You must expect a struggle between flesh and spirit as long as you are in the world, that the flesh will be lusting against the spirit as well as the spirit against the flesh …”  The key is to overcome the flesh by submitting to the Spirit. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but rather principalities and rulers of the darkness, etc. Those who are not aware of the Sprit world are not keen on the struggle. " Matthew Henry’s commentary on Galatians Chapter 5

As a mere teenager, Daniel was bombarded by all sorts of temptations roaming the streets of Babylon, not too different from the Vegas we have today. He prevailed because of his commitment to God. He did his work in the King’s palace, then went home and prayed. In fact, he prayed three times a day. Granted, Daniel never married, but he succeeded against opposition and remained in high standing with the Babylonian Ruler. We can learn plenty from from his life. He remained close to God who empowered his endeavors. He didn’t walk the streets at night finding activities to entertain him. He knew those activities would only lead him to all sorts of trouble and entanglements. He lived like a Puritan and limited his interactions with people. Even his diet was limited.

I’m not suggesting we stop interacting with people or become vegetarians. I am suggesting it’s a good idea to scale back on how many people we interact with on a daily basis, especially on social media which leads to nowhere or eventually cause us to stumble and sin. I am also suggesting we spend more time alone with God listening to the Holy Spirit instead of the constant movement and activities that lead to nowhere. This is what will bring us wisdom and discernment. More of this will eventually lead us to our God Ordained relationship, that we so desperately need and want. Our radar will be sharper towards the things of the Spirit instead of the flesh. We will be able to recognize the right partner when we gaze at them instead of the bright and shiny lights pulling our attention.

Daniel’s life was an example of perfection because he was discerning every step of the way. He did less … not more. He was simple instead of extravagant. His appetite for entertainment was minimal. He lived according to the Spirit, not his flesh. This is what kept him out of trouble. This too will keep us out of trouble.

Having a new discernment and knowledge that God has an ordained partner being prepared for us gives us a new promise, goal, and purpose. We don’t need to entertain and sample everything that is presented to us like a buffet line in Vegas. God knows our immediate and long term needs and is working everything on our behalf and on the behalf of our future significant other. 

Let us trust in Him and do less … not more.

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